Come Play With Me!
Say Say o playmate, come out and play with me! Set your mind free, as we climb up this apple tree. Get rid of those boring lists, play tag till we hit the floor, forget you’re a grownup for 5 minutes, and you’ll be happy ever more! Time spent playing with the agenda of a little kiddo, does that even happen for adults anymore? I remember spending hours rolling around on the front lawn with my other little friends making mud pies, and getting our older siblings to tow us everywhere with a jump rope on our roller skates. We wouldn’t even think about what time of day it was, just…play! The idea of setting aside the things we adults worry about and plan for all day long in order to participate in care free play may seem a little silly, or even impossible. In fact, when there’s grocery shopping to be done, orders to mail, and meetings to catch, time for pretend space ship adventures and bubble popping might feel like a waste of time.
However, I have made an amazing discovery over the last 10 years, and have come to a very important conclusion: Play is paramount to the happiness of our existence. Aaaand since I haven’t gotten into the sex side of this column yet, I want to focus on how play can be beneficial to your love life and sexual activity in, around, and maybe not so near by the bedroom. The benefits of, say playing a rough and tumble game of tag, can do many brilliant things for your sex life. One, as soon as you start giggling and running away from the tagger you tend to forget about the serious lists and worries of the day. The sunlight, or rain, on your shoulders, will relax your tense work mode muscles in your face. You will start to take in more oxygen to help you run away faster and get your blood circulating, which your brain function will thank you for the added oxygen as it can now operate more smoothly and efficiently. And finally your endorphin levels will increase, helping to eliminate physical pain and stress. This will clue your brain and body into the fact that you can enjoy everything around you, and that you are experiencing true, unbridled happiness as your tag mate tackles you to the ground.
All of these bodily responses to playing a simple game of tag will put you in the perfect mind frame to concentrate on nothing but pleasuring yourself and your partner when you are ready for intimacy. If this rowdy version of tag does not suit you, there are many other ways to play. Hide and seek is a favorite of mine because it tends to heighten your sense of anticipation, which increases your heart rate, your sensitivity to hearing, and as you hear the breathing of your seeker as they come slinking around the corner next to the oversized potted fern behind which you are hiding, giddiness and a rush of endorphins will be released, as you realize that you are dangerously close to being found. All of that energy and positive tension is a perfect recipe for good chemistry leading to fulfilling sexual experiences for you and your partner.
If hiding and seeking doesn’t do it for you, telling each other silly stories about the world around us can both eliminate stress and increase your level of creativity. This will allow you to explore curiosities and improbabilities without losing complete touch with the real world, thus new sexual situations and boundaries become more explore-able later on. After investing some good quality time playing with your partner, you may even discover new ways that your partner can touch and interact with you that make your body feel awesome, because the more in touch you are with your creative playful side the more aware you will be of what feels good to your body in general. We are often overburdened with the concerns of what everyone else needs from us that we completely forget how to gauge our own bodily needs, which can easily be dragged with you into sexual moments and keep you from truly enjoying the experience. So before hitting the hay (or wherever your fancy), take time to really play, it really will make you a happier individual forever more. All my love,
Nelly Woman
If you have any questions, stories, and or ideas for the next love and sex column, please send me an e-mail at nellywoman29@gmail.com , can’t wait to hear from you!
